Secrets of a long-term relationship - Part 2
In part 1, we were talking about 3 very important ingredients of a long-term loving relationship and today we will continue with the last 2 “C”-s.
Compromise or give & take or meet halfway – doesn’t matter how we name it – is essential in every relationship. First we need to recognise that we are two different people, brought up with different values in different cultures, etc., hence we might not share the same views on things. It basically prevents us from going into a battle for the wrong reasons, and it helps us create a win-win situation at the end.
Commitment is my favourite aspect of all, probably because that is where I see the biggest problem. So many of us are in a wait and see state when we go into a relationship, after all, there is always someone better at the corner. But is it really true? We might find that the new person is better at certain things, but he or she could easily be lacking some other important qualities. Then we need to move on to find a different partner. But when do we stop? Do we really want to wait until we turn 40-50 or 60 or even above to realise that we are still on our own searching for Mr. or Ms. Perfect? Well, let me spill the beans, there is no such thing as perfect, so it will be a long, long wait.
My advice for everyone: when we find that special person who we have chemistry with and we are compatible with, who we can communicate and find it reasonably easy to compromise with, than we should look no further. We have to act right there and then, otherwise it might be too late, and we can lose that person to someone else’s benefit who was ready to commit.
You can find these five components in every relationship to a certain degree; we just need to find the right balance that works for us.
Many people asked me whether or not there was only one person for each of us. I always believed that we all had more than just one soul mate who we can truly love. After understanding and accepting our own needs and desires and loving ourselves for who we are, we open ourselves to the possibility of finding that very special partner that - with the help of the 5 Cs - we can start a beautiful journey with.
Please don’t let your ego be in control of your love life, otherwise you are not falling in love but falling in need. One of my favourite quotes says it all, "It is better to lose your ego to the one you love, than to lose the one you love because of ego. Your ego will not take you anywhere.”